When Life is not a Bowl of Cherries
by Elektra Porzel
Just today, a new member of our family, died. Timmy was only five weeks old and seemed a perfectly healthy newborn. His family and hence myself, as a member of his extended family, have gone into shock and grief. Gone are the assumptions of birthdays and milestones. Instead there is nothing but emptiness. Or is there?
We all have had deaths of humans, animals, marriages, jobs happen in our lives. If unexpected, like this death, there is shock as well as grief, both of which must run their course. These emotional stages must be respected and opened up to, not pushed aside in hopes of not hurting so much. These emotional stages give us time to fully honor the life or relationship that has ended. They allow us to fully embrace all that that person, animal, relationship has brought into our lives.
What has this got to do with the creation exercises? Well, everything. When I first started writing the creation exercises, I mostly wrote cravings for all that I wanted in my life or for humanity. Later I found out that the manifestation part of a craving doesn’t start until an observing has been written for it. What? All that craving writing and no observings? Yikes! So, I faithfully started writing an observing for each craving I wrote. Sometimes the observing had something to do with the craving and sometimes it didn’t, yet the observing still played the same role with the craving. It activates the craving. It’s like one half of the Taoist symbol. Without the black or white part, would there be any meaning to that symbol? The duality of this existence is expressed in that symbol. Our cravings and observings are expressed in this reality while their substance is to bring in a new reality for ourselves and others.
What has that got to do with using the creation exercises to express and move thru my grief? Today my stomach and lungs are aching and longing for a peace that is not reachable. Today I am connected in shared grief with my sister, her son and daughter-in-law. My field and their fields are filled with tears and profound sadness. So, I write an observing and some of that contained grief leaks out of all our fields. It may be what I can do for them in this day, this week, this month and this year of grieving. We don’t live in the same town or state, so I can’t bring over a casserole or care for their dogs.
Then I write a craving for them, for a grief that is as easy as possible or for renewed hope after grieving has had its time. That craving serves me and them. We share a common connection and hence a common field. What more could I do for them than to place my hope for them into an alchemical formula that will support them as they move from grief to hope. I am doing this for them as I cannot physically hold them. I am doing this for me so that I remember to hold precious the lives of all our other family members that are still ongoing. I do it for all who have lost someone or something and dwell in grief without hope. I do it to bring hope and trust in Creation back to my family, humanity and the Earth community.
The biggest gift that you can give yourself in these times is to write a creation exercise every day. A new reality is forming and our cravings and observings strengthen it and define it. Make this new reality the one that you want to live in. Write every day a craving or observing. Join the Fall 2018 – 90 Creation Project to strengthen your commitment to your life and to a new reality for humanity. Be in gratitude for your life and your family’s lives. Everything else that has gone wrong in our lives pales when compared to the death of a loved one. BE GRATITUDE. Hold close all that you love and let your field get so big with gratitude that all that irritating and sad stuff no longer dominates your experience. BE Gratitude. BE love. There is really nothing else, just BE.
